Consider that every painful emotion you have ever experienced has been self-created by resisting your reality. It’s never the thing we’re upset about that’s actually upsetting us. It is our resistance. Our pain is only meant to be experienced one time while we’re experiencing it. Yet when we live in fear, we experience the pain of a perceived future over and over again. If you want to learn more on how to do the turn around in your life read the book Loving what Is from Byron Katie, and learn more about The Work. Here is the link for this amazing book.